Call to me and I will answer you and tell you great and unsearchable things you do not know. – Jer. 33:3
1. Don’t overlook your opportunity to call on the Lord
In Jeremiah 33, Jerusalem is falling to their enemy, and the prophet Jeremiah is actually shackled and imprisoned when God reveals His plan to restore Israel. This verse is a reminder that even when you feel like you’re missing so much in your life, God still wants you to call on HIM because He wants to speak directly to YOU. Sometimes we can get impatient with God and think He isn’t speaking because a certain thing hasn’t been revealed to us yet, but He IS speaking to you, guiding you in this very moment. He wants to you call on Him. So when you’re searching for something more, remember that to the Lord is where you need to go before anywhere else!
2. Worry less about what others are thinking of you, and focus on the what God says!
Have you ever been interested in a guy and wondered if he was thinking about you in the same way? Have you ever wondered why someone gave you that funny look when you did nothing at all? If you’ve ever experienced anything like that, you know what it feels like to momentarily be consumed by the thought of what could be. You’ve spent time analyzing that person’s actions, wondering how it’s going to affect your relationship with them. If that’s ever been you, let this verse be a reminder that even in those moments where we feel imprisoned by the things you can’t stop thinking about, we have the opportunity through Jesus Christ to shift our focus to the One who already knows how this is going to pan out. This week, I challenge you to look at those moments where you find yourself wondering if so-and-so still thinks about you, or if you’ll make a good impression in front of that one person, that you’ll instead go before the Lord in prayer, asking Him to reveal the kind of things you need to focusing on instead. Spend time in His word daily, knowing that He IS going to speak to you through it!
As women, sometimes we have the tendency to let our emotions do the talking when it comes to making decisions in our lives. This is especially common when we began new relationships. As a result of this, many of us end up in relationships where we wish we had done things differently, or we wish known more in the beginning.
However, sometimes we’re just so happy to be with this guy that we’re afraid to dig too deep or start asking too many questions for fear that we might mess things up or scare him away before things even get started.
But we have to do that. By dating someone, you’re agreeing that you could possibly end up being committed to this person through marriage and maybe even have an offspring with them.
Because of this, we have to stir things up and ask some questions. And if you happen to scare him away by asking him questions, then he isn’t worth having a relationship with you!
Below are some questions you can ask yourself before you change that Facebook status to In A Relationship. These questions aren’t anything revolutionary and it’s also possible that there could be some teeny little grey areas, but more than likely, these are questions that you can work your way through before you decide to be in a committed relationship:
- Have you ever heard him talk about his parents? If so, is he respectful?
- Would he rather TALK to you than text?
- Is he respectful toward you around his friends?
- Would you be okay with him spending time with your dad (or the fatherly figure in your life) when you aren’t around?
- Would you be okay allowing him to see when your makeup/hair is not done?
- Does he have a father/mentor whom he seeks to model himself after?
- Does he give you more non-physical compliments than physical compliments?
- Does he have a job to support himself?
- Does he handle his money well?
- Do you have the same beliefs when it comes what matters to you most?
- Has he met your parents?
- Have you talked about short term goals?
- Do your short term goals align?
- Have you talked about long term goals?
- Do your long term goals align?
- Does he stop when you say “stop?”
- Does he respect your body?
- Have you had dialogue about what you believe and why?
- Do you know anything about his past relationships?
- Do he know anything about your past relationships?
- Is his number one, two, and three reasons for being attracted to you non-physical?
- Are your number one, two, and three reasons for being attracted to him non-physical?
- Do the people you trust the most approve of him?
- Do the people he trust the most approve of you?
- Is he involved in his local church, or charity, missions, or has a desire to help others?
- Has he ever offered to help with a project or something you were working on or stressed about?
- Does he try his best to stay clear of dangerous activities (texting/drinking and driving, speeding, other illegal activities)?
- Is he willing to admit when he is wrong?
- Is he a person of integrity (not willing to cheat, steal, or lie even if no one is looking)?
- Is he sensitive towards people with disabilities, people who are elderly, etc.?
- Do you have the same beliefs when it comes to children?
- Do you feel comfortable when he’s around the people you are closest to?
- Does he show an interest in the things you are interested in?
- Have you ever seen him help someone?
- Do you feel safe around him?
- Do you feel that he would protect you in a time of need?
- Do you feel that he will stand up for you?
- Do you feel good about standing up for him?
- Do you see him as someone you could spend the rest of your life (and maybe even have children) with?
- Does he love God more than he loves anyone else?
If your answer is yes to most of these questions, then it sounds like you may have a good thing going.
If your answer was no more than a couple of times, you should really talk to this guy and maybe just spend some more time as friends and get to know each other!
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Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect. – Romans 12:2
My dear sister,
1. Peer pressure and temptation isn’t just something teens face
Often times “peer pressure” is associated with adolescent years. However, it doesn’t matter what age you are, we all deal with peer pressure and temptation. If someone is doing better at work, we might feel less about our own work if it’s not meeting that standard. If guys are always interested in our friends but never us, it can seem like we aren’t as pretty. We can start to feel like we might need to do whatever it takes to keep up, when in reality, we need to be looking to our Father first, asking Him to show us what to do!
2. Being different is a good thing
As women who follow Christ we have to know that being different is a good thing. We are not supposed to be like the world because we have been called to so much more. We have been called to be different than the world so that we will learn to know God’s will for us, which is good and pleasing and perfect. But if we’re always trying to compete with others, constantly lowering our standards to fit the mold, we will start to drift further and further away from the kind of lives God has called us to live! Even when prospects are low, whether it be looking for a new job, or desiring a husband, never lower your standard to meet the mold of this world. Trust God and He WILL provide.
3. It all starts with knowing who you are
While it may seem like a cliche at times, we must remember that we are daughters of the King. 1 Peter 2:9 reminds us that we are apart of God’s royal priesthood! Members of the royal family don’t just live any kind of way. Continue to trust in God when you’re not feeling so much like royalty, because in Him, you still are and there is NO need to settle for the ways of the world, when you have Him to lean on!
Let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven. – Mt. 5:16 (NIV)
These are Jesus’ words when preaching to a captivated crowd during the Sermon on the Mount. It’s a reminder that the difference He makes in our hearts and in our lives isn’t just for us, but for those around us, too. Whether the people you’re around are followers of Christ or not, they should be able to see the transformation taking place in your life because of Jesus. It should help them understand that:
1. Change is a good thing.
So often times people use the phrase “you’ve changed” negatively. However, in Christ, change is not negative at all but life altering in the best way. Following Jesus isn’t about looking better than others, but about shining brighter so that others can see just how life changing it is when you make the point to follow Him. So when it comes to the things that God has delivered you from, don’t be ashamed to share that part of your story. Share with your friends the story of how God healed your broken heart. Tell your little sister the story of how you learned to know what you were in Christ. Your transformation is a powerful tool that can truly bless those around you.
2. Change is something they too can experience.
When you begin to shine your light, others will take note. They will notice that you’re different and they will want to experience what you have as well. But keep in mind that this doesn’t always mean that they’re going to walk up to you and say, “wow, I really admire your life…how can I be like you?” Sometimes, they might disagree, or maybe they won’t understand at first. They may question what you do, not because they doubt you, but because they’re trying to learn what it means to let Jesus into their hearts themselves. Sometimes, they might not say anything at all. But don’t let that stop you from shining your light! You are called to be an example even when others say”you’ve changed” and even when they question you, keep on being a light and let God be the one who transforms them!
Further reading: Mt. 5:13-16