Getting Married Young

morgan harper nichols and husband patrick nichols

Morgan Harper Nichols and her husband Patrick Nichols

Marriage is a beautiful thing, and while most people can agree with that,  many still live under the impression that you get married when you’re done having all the fun, or simply tired of sleeping around, and finally found someone you think you can put up with for a while.

My husband and I got married at 20 years old. We’re now 25 and have been married for just almost 5 years. I’ve lost track of the number of times people have responded to us being married young by saying. “Why? you’re so young!” as though to imply that marriage is not for our age group.
If you’re afraid of getting married young because you think you’re missing out on something, I’m here to tell you, you’re not. My husband is truly my best friend and in our marriage, we’ve done so many things from living in different states to leaving our day jobs to go work in the music business, and even though it has been far from easy, we’ve gotten closer to each other and closer to God. I think a lot of times people fear that young people just aren’t “ready” for marriage. I do think there is a certain level of maturity that comes with making the decision to get married however, you will never reach a point in life where you are completely “ready” for everything that will happen when you get married. The only the thing that’s going to prepare you for that is trusting that everything happens for a reason (Romans 8:28) God has a plan for it all (Jeremiah 29:11).
Marriage is apart of life just like anything else. We can’t spend all of our times stressing out about tomorrow where we don’t know what’s going to happen tomorrow. We just have to know that trusting in God is apart of that tomorrow..whether we’re married or not.
I got married young because I loved Patrick, and he loved me, and we knew that we wanted to spend the rest of our lives together. There’s no age restriction on that. Don’t let others discourage you into thinking that marriage is not for you because you are young! Of course, if you don’t get married young there is nothing wrong with that and there are some people who wait, but the reason why I wrote this is to inspire others to see that if you desire marriage at a young age, getting married at 20 or 22 isn’t  unrealistic. Age does not exactly always equate maturity, or even experience!
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Don’t let anyone look down on you because you are young, but set an example for the believers in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith and in purity.
I Timothy 4:12 (NIV)